R. Kelly Childhood Abuse
R. Kelly is a household name in many black homes. As a child, I grew up singing “Bump and Grind” before I had begun exploring my own sexuality. My own African-American grandmother had “I Believe I Can Fly” at her funeral. Yet, there also lingered rumors of him having sex with underage girls.
As Lifetime releases the docudrama “Surviving R. Kelly”, we learn not only about his abuse of women and teenage girls sexually, physically, mentally, and emotionally, but something more. He details his own history of being abused sexually starting at 7 years old.
Adding to the disturbing narrative, his brother also states that he was molested as a boy. R. Kelly and his brother are obviously not alone. In the black community, we publicly discuss the impacts of racism on our mental and emotional lives. It is something being done to us racist whites and those outside of our community. However, the sexual abuse we inflict upon one another is swept under the rug.
The #MeToo movement has been a tipping point for many women of all colors to air their tales of sexual abuse, molestation, and harassment. Black men have no such movement. However, you also have stories of pain and hurt related to sexual trauma.
Psychotherapy is a forum to discuss how your prior sexual abuse affects you in negative ways today. Perhaps you are slow to trust others, emotionally distraught over minor incidences, or lack self-esteem. R. Kelly’s fetish for underage teenage girls maybe a result of his own abuse. Had he sought treatment for his desires, he may have alleviated them, or decided to stop abusing the women lovers in his life.
You're welcome to call us for an initial consultation to explore how your own childhood sexual abuse is negatively impacting your life, and begin healing. There is help.